Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Lily's story

One June 11th of this year, our faith was tested. Our lives were shaken to the very core and our family nearly shattered as our five year old daughter, Lily, fought for her life in a hospital.

That week started out with much anticipation. Sean, our son, had been looking forward to "camp son shine" for weeks and Lily had been looking forward to a very special birthday party. The party was to be Friday, June 11th.  On Monday the 7th, we drove Sean to camp. We were excited that he was getting the "big boy" adventure of staying three days at camp without us. He felt so grown up. Lily was a little down that she was too young, so we promised her a great week of  mommy & daddy time with just her. Each day that week we did something special. She loved every minute of it.

Friday arrived. It was the day of the much anticipated pool party for her friend. Thursday night, she carefully chose her swimsuit before going to bed.

I woke up Friday morning to something very rare. Lily was snuggled up beside me in our bed. Usually it's Sean who climbs in the bed with us. Lily has been extremely independent and full of confidence from a very young age, so it was nice that she had climbed in next to me that morning. As she lay there sleeping next to me, I dreaded getting up going to work. I stroked her hair and kissed her forehead. I just enjoyed snuggling with my baby girl. I finally dragged myself out of bed and went to work. I was getting off at 3:00 that day and was coming strait back to pick her up for the party.

Finally the time arrived to leave for the big pool party. We drove to her friend's house with her favorite CD in and the volume in my Pilot almost maxed. We sang and laughed all the way to the party.
At the party, Lily ran, swam, slid and laughed with about 23 other little girls while I ran around clicking pictures of all the fun. About 30 minutes into the party, an unimaginable thing happened, Lily was noticed laying at the bottom of the pool. I remember a mother coming to me screaming "Heidi, someone went under and is being pulled out of the pool". I looked at her in a confused way and the next words out of her mouth made me sick to the pit of my stomach. "Heidi, the child is Lily". Thinking she just bobbed her head under and would be fine, I ran over to the pool area to get her.

I was not prepared for what I saw next. My baby girl was being placed on a lawn chair for CPR. She was grey, not breathing and her belly was distended. I gripped her little feet as two parents began CPR on her. I began to call upon Jesus. I was full of fear, terror, dread, guilt and anxiety. I think I felt just about every single emotion that a person can feel, rush through my body all in one moment of time. Everything felt like slow motion as I screamed out for someone to call 911. Of course, 911 had already been called. I was just unaware of everything around me. I was only focused on her. Her eyes were wide open and appeared to be fixed and dilated. Finally, after what seemed like hours....... a breath. But my nightmare was far from over.

Lily was transported by ambulance to our local hospital. On arrival, she was cold, blue, had dilated pupils, was posturing and had very shallow breaths. Her lungs were full of water. She was immediately put on a ventilator and the doctor came out to talk to us. He told us that she was in very critical condition and would need to be airlifted to a Children's hospital about an hour away from where we live. We could not fly with her.

Buddy and I drove while Lily flew in a helicopter. In the car, I gripped the bible while Buddy drove. We prayed almost the entire way. When we arrived, they directed us to the intensive care unit where Lily had been placed. The doctor there informed us immidiately that Lily was critical and that it would be a minute by minute journey with her the first 24 hours. We were hopeful for her because she did have a pulse on arrival to the ER in our hometown. However, she was showing signs of possible brain damage and no one knew for sure how long she had been submerged under water and went without oxygen. All we could do was pray and hope for a miracle. We learned that a friend created her a prayer group page on facebook and before we knew it, we had thousands of prayer warriors from all over the country, and even some in other countries, praying for our daughter. "Pray for Lily Murphy" now has over 5000 members.


For about 48 hours, Lily batteled a very high fever of over 105 and was placed on a cold bed to bring her body temperature down. After a few days she began to open her eyes and squeeze our fingers. On the fifth day, against the odds, she woke up and was taken off of the ventilator. Her first words were: "chocolate candy". What sweet words. I think that was even better than watching her take her first steps at one year old. It was like watching my newborn baby. I was just in awe of her. Little by little, she recovered. She had some setbacks and developed phnemonia. But it was all manageable. She was moved out of the intensive care and into a private room.


Miraculously, 12 days after she was lifeflighted into the hospital, she walked out. Healthy, vibrant and one hundred percent neurologically intact. What a little miracle she is.


Since her original recovery, Lily has batteled some effects from endotracheal tube damage in her little trachea. It is being managed with surgery and medication.  She had narrowing of her trachea and scar tissue. We are believing for a full recovery from that as well. She has had two surgeries already and will have a third one September the 10th. Lily has come such a long way but still needs your prayers. Please keep praying for our little miracle girl.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

"Looooong time, no blog"

Our new "normal"
WOW!!!! Just WOW!!!!
That is about all I can say for an opening of this, my first blog post since spring.

Everything is "new" in the Murphys lives.
The kids started a new school year, in a new school.
I start a new job this Monday.
Buddy started teaching classes at a new college.
The kids are starting something new... Piano lessons.

And so, we are just rolling right along with all of the new things in our lives.

I am sure many of you know about our tragic, yet miraculous summer with our daughter Lily. She had a very serious accident at the beginning of the summer. I am not sure that I am ready just yet to blog about it. It is quite an emotional topic for me and it is late right now. I don't think I have the strength to say everything I want to say and do it all justice. I promise though, I will do a post very soon. If it turns out that you just cannot wait, have not heard and really want to know about our daughter's accident, you can click on this link and it will take you to her facebook page. Click on the "info" tab.

Today I started a new blog called: "Lilyisms and the funny things your kids say". You can find it by clicking the title above or by going here . For months, my friends have been telling me I need to write down the funny things my daughter says. Both of my children say the "darndest things" as I am sure many of yours do as well. My son Sean has a more serious personality and while he does say funny things, it is usually the things my daughter says that has me laughing most of the time. She just has the most quirky little personality and says things that have me thinking "where in the world did that come from"?
That is the main reason I titled the blog "Lilyisms". The blog, however, is meant to journal the cute things that BOTH of my kids say as well as all of your kids. All of our kids say some things that are just too good not to share. This blog is a way of not only journaling, but also connecting each of us through our kids and helping to bring a smile or a laugh to us through sharing and reading.

Since it has been so long, I will leave you with a recent picture of my darlings.